A very personal (and I admit a little controversial) heroine of mine once reminded us that ‘the most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself’ and in all my 31 years on this earth, nothing has ever rang truer for me. Self-worth is such an important part of our existence – it affects all our other relationships; with our families, friends, lovers, colleagues, our bodies, our minds and our souls. I’m not talking about arrogance, but a much purer, more deserved emotion – the belief that you are a good person who does good things.
Confidence eludes some people for their whole lives. The causes for this may run deep and require help from any number of sources, but as a personal trainer I’m often faced with clients who, for whatever reason, have been made to feel that their bodies aren’t good enough. So many of us believe that the answer to happiness is related to weight-loss – but I can tell you for certain, it doesn’t matter what you see when you step onto the scales; happiness will come when you put everything you don’t like to one side and concentrate on the things you DO love about yourself. Some examples might include your loyalty, your honesty, your ambition, your intelligence – none of these things will change with your weight – they are here to stay.
We all have days when we have trouble loving ourselves. Very often people with low self-confidence will undertake a hobby such as running as a way of tangibly bettering themselves time after time. But take a step back and imagine your life without your job, your runs, or anything that you feel may define you. Are you still an interesting, awesome person? OF COURSE YOU ARE. It’s a tough job stripping away everything that shapes you – but you’re so much more than just those elements. You’re YOU – and you’re you before you’re anything else; a doctor, a mother, a father, a wife, an assistant, a sibling, a CEO. Get right down to the nitty-gritty of who you are – and LOVE that person.
Love is one of those things there will never, ever be enough of. Love is infinite – and that includes self-love. As I said earlier it isn’t egotism, it isn’t being up yourself. It’s being safe in the knowledge that you are, and will continue to be, the best you possible. Don’t be afraid to say ‘I’M GREAT’.
NB: For those who don’t know – the quote at the beginning is a part of Carrie Bradshaw’s very last words from the final episode of Sex & The City. Full quote below. I HEART CARRIE.
“Later that day I got to thinking about relationships. There are those that open you up to something new and exotic, those that are old and familiar, those that bring up lots of questions, those that bring you somewhere unexpected, those that bring you far from where you started, and those that bring you back. But the most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you can find someone to love the you you love, well, that's just fabulous.”