Some Hope

There’s one question I get asked, by both clients and non-clients alike, more than anything else; ‘when will I see results’?

I don’t have a definitive answer for this, because there isn’t one. But I can tell you that, as long as you stay focused and don’t give up, you WILL see them.

Each and every one of our bodies responds differently to various different types of foods and workouts. You might need to try a few combinations to find a pattern that is effective for you. Then there’s your metabolism to take into account. There are no certs – although it’s common, people who have more weight to lose won’t necessarily lose it quicker than those who don’t.

Now here comes the hope – the certainties, what I can guarantee you will happen. If you keep exercising, and eating well, you WILL reach your goals. No matter how slowly the changes happen, they WILL happen. Each and every time you nail a workout, eat a healthy home-cooked meal and remind yourself how far you’ve come you’re one step closer to hitting your target. It doesn’t matter how you do it. You can dance, run, box, pump, climb or spin your way to the top. You can exercise early, late, alone, with someone, inside, outside or up a tree. Just keep moving.

As you progress, there may be extra changes that you start making as you become fitter and stronger. You might need to start adding weights when your body-weight becomes too easy for you to carry. Once you’ve adapted to your initial dietary adjustments, you might start to make more. My point is – start small, and you’ll only get better and gain more momentum.

Finally, and most important of all – don’t let ANYTHING hold you back. One missed workout or a pizza + wine night DO NOT equal one stone weight gain. In fact since you’re working so hard, you’ve earned that rest and those calories. Keep climbing, keep smiling and one day you’ll wake up, look in the mirror, and that you you’ve been looking for will be looking right backatcha. 


A very personal (and I admit a little controversial) heroine of mine once reminded us that ‘the most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself’ and in all my 31 years on this earth, nothing has ever rang truer for me. Self-worth is such an important part of our existence – it affects all our other relationships; with our families, friends, lovers, colleagues, our bodies, our minds and our souls. I’m not talking about arrogance, but a much purer, more deserved emotion – the belief that you are a good person who does good things.

Confidence eludes some people for their whole lives. The causes for this may run deep and require help from any number of sources, but as a personal trainer I’m often faced with clients who, for whatever reason, have been made to feel that their bodies aren’t good enough.  So many of us believe that the answer to happiness is related to weight-loss – but I can tell you for certain, it doesn’t matter what you see when you step onto the scales; happiness will come when you put everything you don’t like to one side and concentrate on the things you DO love about yourself. Some examples might include your loyalty, your honesty, your ambition, your intelligence – none of these things will change with your weight – they are here to stay.

We all have days when we have trouble loving ourselves. Very often people with low self-confidence will undertake a hobby such as running as a way of tangibly bettering themselves time after time. But take a step back and imagine your life without your job, your runs, or anything that you feel may define you. Are you still an interesting, awesome person? OF COURSE YOU ARE. It’s a tough job stripping away everything that shapes you – but you’re so much more than just those elements. You’re YOU – and you’re you before you’re anything else; a doctor, a mother, a father, a wife, an assistant, a sibling, a CEO. Get right down to the nitty-gritty of who you are – and LOVE that person.

Love is one of those things there will never, ever be enough of.  Love is infinite – and that includes self-love. As I said earlier it isn’t egotism, it isn’t being up yourself. It’s being safe in the knowledge that you are, and will continue to be, the best you possible. Don’t be afraid to say ‘I’M GREAT’.

NB: For those who don’t know – the quote at the beginning is a part of Carrie Bradshaw’s very last words from the final episode of Sex & The City. Full quote below. I HEART CARRIE.

“Later that day I got to thinking about relationships. There are those that open you up to something new and exotic, those that are old and familiar, those that bring up lots of questions, those that bring you somewhere unexpected, those that bring you far from where you started, and those that bring you back. But the most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you can find someone to love the you you love, well, that's just fabulous.”